When one loses affection, chaos begins. In a marriage set-up, the lack of affection will lead to numerous domestic fights that both harm not only you as couples but your children as well if you have any. It is not healthy to live in a home where all you can do is scream and lash out on each other due to the lack of communication and affection.
Some people compromise for the sake of their children’s childhood. But compromising with resolving the main root of the issue would not amount into anything good lest it will only result in more issues to solve. The more you push your issues as a couple in the sidelines the more it will break you – the more you will drift apart from each other.
You need to face it like grown-ups. Stop running away and start facing the ultimate reason why suddenly you become each other’s enemy. Issues on jealousy, third party, and celibacy in marriage are not something you can just neglect or something you will solve through a divorce paper. A lot of married couples break up and end things with divorce sheet but in the end, nothing changes, they meet other people in their lives and end up divorcing again.
It is mainly because the core of the problem hasn’t been dealt with and the more you repressed this inside you the more you become broken from the inside thus making everything ugly inside. Individual issues when not dealt properly through professional therapy such as an individual session with a therapist can gravely affect a relationship, may it be filial, romantic, or casually with colleagues. it will create chaos and it will gravely break your further.
You vow together to stick up with others so long as you can, so long as you can handle that is being together till death do the parting itself. You need to fight for your marriage and relationship. Being separated is not the solution. You have to look for other ways in which you will patch things up and grow back as a couple again.
You need counseling. You need to see a therapist together and talk things out with the help of a mediator or a third party. The most couple breaks up because both people feel the lack of communication – honest communication, and the worse of it is, they rarely feel that they are heard and listened to. When you can fix that when you can finally listen towards each other without shouting or screaming that is where understanding begins.
Change is something that you should work together and it will begin the moment you realize where the trouble is coming from but unless you will not deal with the seminal cause of your daily fight and misunderstanding, you will be stuck in the series of fights until one of you give up or both of you become broken in the end. Relationships are supposed to be nurturing, it does not suppose to break you and neither destroy you.